- The name suggest that it's an act of violence not to "put out" to your partner, which sounds a bit... much?The name is due to the fact that I already owned the domain. It's from a song called "Losing you" by Sophie Zelmani, and meant totally poetically. It is not to suggest or equal the absence of intimacy to actual violence.
At the same time, do not underestimate the actual effects of rejections that, while not "violent", can give big and lasting scars on a person. Someone suggested that while actual rape is the extreme end in the other direction, a similarity is that your power to choose how and when you're having sex is equally stripped from you in a relationship where you're being silently stripped of that decision.
Here is the complete lyrics to the song in question:
I can tell
By your look
There’s something missing
Something I took
I can tell
By the way you sound
Won’t be long
You won’t be around
Oehh I’m losing you
Oehh I’m losing you
Was it my words
Or my silence
I know it hurts
My kind of violence
Won’t you tell
How I hurt you
Won’t be long
You won’t be around
Ohh I’m losing you
Ohh I’m losing youLast updated 2018-04-02 09:50:00 - Seems like an odd name for a site, being sexually rejected isn't violent, right?You're right. It's actually from a song lyric and I already had the domain for other reasons. It's more poetically meant. And instead of getting a new more fitting URL, this will have to do for the time being.
While I agree that being sexually frustrated hardly is "violence" in itself, I think a lot of people that experience sexual rejection can relate to the more non-literal meaning of the name. I didn't pick it to offend anyone!Last updated 2016-12-19 09:19:00 - Is my data being mined for advertising?While you're right to be a bit suspicious about something that could collect rather sensitive data about your life, the real truth is that this site is run by one person that is in a very similar situation as you. I used a similar private web application for years to better understand my frustration, and I just thought that more people could benefit from it, that's all.
Your data has no value to me, nor would I ever send/sell it to anyone else. Not that I even know who would be interested in it.
I recommend you use a private email when registering if you have any other concerns. There are no nefarious javascripts used on this site that could track you, nor are there any ads. I get nothing from this site other than its use.Last updated 2018-04-02 09:37:00 - How does the application know how "satisfied" I am with my sexlife?Well, it doesn't, really. It works from two basic premises - how often do you want to have sex and how good do you want that sex to be, rated from 1 to 5? More about the algorithm here.
But other than that there are of course a lot more parameters that go into your satisfaction for any given situation, including sex. So use this as a way to get a better understanding of why you may feel "low" for the moment, as a guide.
I would recommend not using it to throw in your partners face as a point of argument for the sole reason that as data it's rather shallow. A sex life is usually a lot more complex than the bleak black and white data that this application presentsLast updated 2018-04-02 09:37:00
